How to Beat the Holiday Blues: 5 Practical Tips for a Happier Season

I realized my last post was a bit of a downer, so I wanted to dedicate this month’s post to some practical tips to help fight those holiday blues. The fact of the matter is, the holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy and celebration, but for many, it can bring feelings of sadness, stress, or even loneliness. If you’re experiencing the holiday blues, know that you’re not alone—and there are ways to navigate these feelings. Here are five practical tips to help you lift your spirits and find some peace during the holidays.

1. Set Realistic Expectations

This is the one that always get’s me. I set Norman Rockwell standards and can never live up to them. The pressure to have a "perfect" holiday can lead to stress and disappointment. Remember, no holiday celebration is without its imperfections, and that’s okay. Adjust your expectations by focusing on what’s most important to you—whether it’s spending time with loved ones, enjoying quiet moments, or simply making it through the season with a sense of calm.

*Quick Tip:* Prioritize your energy by saying "no" to events or tasks that feel overwhelming and "yes" to activities that truly bring you joy. I’m starting to learn though, that saying “no” gets easier the more you do it. Even if it is just saying “no” to myself.

2. Create Your Own Traditions

I love figuring out my own way of doing things and am not afraid to buck tradition. If old traditions bring up painful memories or don’t resonate anymore, try creating new ones. Whether it’s baking cookies while listening to your favorite playlist, having a movie night in your pajamas, or volunteering, new traditions can bring a sense of renewal and joy to the season.

*Quick Tip:* Reflect on what makes you happy, and design a small ritual or activity around it—something you can look forward to each year.

3. Stay Connected

As a natural introvert, this one can be hard for me, but I know it is important. The holidays can feel isolating, especially if you’re far from loved ones or experiencing loss. Reach out to friends, family, or even community groups to stay connected. A simple phone call, video chat, or in-person meetup can make a world of difference.

*Quick Tip:* Don’t hesitate to initiate plans. Even sending a cheerful message to someone can spark meaningful connection.

4. Focus on Self-Care

Finding time for self-care can also be hard. It is easy to always put myself and my needs at the bottom of the list. The holiday rush can leave you feeling drained, so take time to care for yourself. Rest, eat nourishing foods, and engage in activities that make you feel good, like reading, crafting, or taking a walk. Self-care is not selfish—it’s essential.

*Quick Tip:* Schedule moments of downtime into your holiday calendar, even if it’s just 15 minutes to breathe or enjoy a cup of tea.

5. Practice Gratitude

Lastly, while the holidays may bring challenges, shifting your focus to gratitude can help change your perspective. Reflect on the small things you’re thankful for, whether it’s a kind word, a cozy blanket, or a delicious meal.

*Quick Tip:* Start a gratitude journal and jot down three things you’re grateful for each day. It’s a simple yet powerful way to boost your mood.

The holiday blues can be tough to navigate, especially if you are grieving a loss or have particular holiday trauma. I hope these tips can help you find ways to care for yourself and create moments of joy. Remember, it’s okay to feel how you feel, and taking small steps can lead to a brighter season. I know we can do this.