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It's Not About Luck: My Real-Life Stories of Serendipity

Today is St. Patrick’s Day here in the United States. I’ve always been conflicted about the holiday. I think my hesitation to fully embrace a celebratory attitude stems from one of a couple of reasons. Either: a) my aversion to a holiday that legitimizes drunkenness or b) that the holiday mascot is a leprechaun— a cute, jolly little short dude who is an appropriating stereotype and caricature for a Little Person (who are actually real people, by the way).

Aside from green beer and leprechauns, though, St. Patrick’s Day is most associated with luck and four-leaf clovers. The myth of Celtic tradition says that four-leaf clovers are to be used to repel back luck. The leaves of the clover themself stand for faith, hope, luck and love.

My First Job After Graduating From College Had Nothing To Do with My Major

I actually had two first jobs. One I consider my first job ever. And the other I think of as my first job as an adult. Both were very good learning experiences that taught me life lessons. And they also reinforced a common process of decision-making in my life: they helped me understand what I did like, by doing what I didn't.

The employment options available to me in high school were limited because of my disability. Most retail and fast food positions, common sectors for teenage hires, were too physically demanding or inaccessible. So when an opportunity came along to get paid for talking on the phone (telemarketing), it seemed like a perfect fit. For about six months of my junior year, I did cold calls about three nights a week for Farmer's Insurance. This was back in the early 90's when insurance agents had list books of phone numbers and they would pay young folks such as myself, to call and solicit people for home, auto or life insurance. I mostly pitched auto insurance. If I could keep someone on the phone long enough to answer some basic questions, and ideally agree to have an agent follow up, that was a win. A minimum of 10 wins in one night was considered a good night.

Well, good, according to the agent. Bad for me. Looking back I have no idea how I even lasted six months at that job. While I felt a temporary sense of accomplishment, only punctuated by the delivery of a paycheck every two weeks, it wasn't enough to make me love the job.

Reflecting Back on Past Essays and Writing

The stack is about three inches tall, about nine manilla file folders worth. In them are about three years of intense writing work I did as part of my undergraduate studies 15 years ago while earning my degree in journalism with a minor in creative writing. The writing I crammed into those few years caused me to burn out and turn to the business world for employment immediately after college. It took me about five years to pick up a pen and notepad again when I was a reporter for a small rural newspaper in Wisconsin. I remained at the Daily Citizen for only nine months. My crime and county government beat didn't exactly bring out the passion of creative or feature writing that I was able to pursue in my college days. It did help to build my confidence, however. It affirmed the belief that I had what it took to be a reporter, even if news writing wasn't what I wanted to do.

MWF Seeking BFF: Good (local) Girlfriends are Hard to Find

I've moved around the country a lot. From across the midwest, down to the south, and now to the west, I've looked to each move with fun, adventure, and new beginnings. And I did them all without having a tight group of girlfriends along the way. Sure, I have a best friend from high school, and I make friends pretty quickly in new environments, school, or work. But the whole BFF thing? Me, Nah. I've typically been fine flying solo. Until now-- having lived in California now for five years, I'm still struggling to make some long-lasting connections. It didn't help that until recently, I wasn't working outside of the home. But to make up for that, I joined various social groups through Meet-up.com, where I did meet some great ladies, but no one who comes over to "just hang."

Don't Give Up! Minor Changes Can Bring Major Results

I have vowed that 2010 is going to be a better year for me than 2009 was. I will take more time to do things for myself, I will be more productive, I am going to learn new things and breakthrough old barriers. Whew! that is a lot for just one year!

One challenge for me in '09 was keeping up with the housework. It seems like 80% of my time is spent in the kitchen! I'm either clearing off the kitchen table, which can be a catch-all for everything, preparing food, doing dishes, emptying the dishwasher... and the list goes on and on.

Loving the Holidays but Surrendering to the Bah Humbug

Let's just cut to the chase. 2009 has been a shitty year for me. So shitty that when I am at my worst moments, what I am most grateful for, is simply life itself. Yes, I have many other things to be thankful for, too: a loving husband, supportive family, a roof over my head, and money in the bank. But those things often become diluted in the melancholy abyss of my life's current tragedy. My one refuge for the year was going to be the holidays. I LOVE the holidays. Back in mid-October, I declared to Andrew, "I am going to get everything done for Christmas by December 1, so I can simply enjoy the

Sometimes It's About Just Showing Up

Sometimes you just gotta get up and show up. Even when it's early and you don't want to, and you wish you had a magic wand you could wave that would make the whole world just stop spinning. Such is how I felt around 8 a.m. Saturday morning. You see, a couple of weeks ago, as the organizer for a South Bay girl's Meet-up group, I scheduled a fun outing for some local ladies to go to the DeAnza Flea Market. It seemed like a great idea then! But at 8 a.m. Saturday, when I would have rather slept in, enjoying a quiet house, and nuzzling husband, I instead had to get up.